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Today’s post is part of a traveling book review hosted by Rockstar Finance bloggers. Each day, a different blogger will share their insights and commentary on a chapter from the newly-updated personal finance classic Your Money or Your Life. You can work through every chapter in the book by visiting this introduction post.
Here are my thoughts on chapter one, “The Money Trap: The Old Road Map for Money.”
Your money or your life
Author Vicki Robin opens up Your Money or Your Life with this hypothetical question:
“Your money or your life.”
If someone thrust a gun in your ribs and said those words, what would you do? Most of us would turn over our wallets. The threat works because we value our lives more than we value our money. Or do we?
For most of us, the resolution to this situation is a simple one. We’d fork over our wallet or purse immediately and without any second thought (except perhaps to call the bank and cancel our cards).
While money has instrumental value, we understand that money is just a means to an end. The value of our money isn’t found in a stack of bills or digits on a screen. What we’re really looking for with money is a mixture of security, purpose, freedom, or status.
Steve Jobs is attributed with saying, “Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful… that’s what matters to me.”
Doing something “wonderful” could be pursuing a passion, building a legacy, or treating others generously. What you find meaningful may be inspired by others but will ultimately be unique to you.
If we tell ourselves that money isn’t everything – perhaps it is about creating something wonderful – then why do we instead trade our time, health, and energy to consume?
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You are not your job
Think back on the last time you were asked to introduce yourself. Perhaps it was at a coffee date, holiday party, or family reunion.
If you’re like many people, you started by sharing about your career. This shouldn’t come as a surprise – we typically spend one-third or more of our waking hours at work. Add in your commute, overtime hours, and checking your emails off the clock, and that percentage is likely even higher.
For some, a career is the “wonderful” that Steve Jobs was talking about. It provides a consistent paycheck, a community of coworkers, and a way to contribute to something larger than one’s self.
Of course, this isn’t true for everybody. You may find that your job doesn’t make you happier or healthier.
Worse yet, your job may not be making you financially successful either. (And even the joy of getting a raise at work doesn’t last forever.)
Over the last few decades, employees are saving less money than ever before. Americans save less than 4% of their income toward retirement.
If you want to reach financial independence at “typical” retirement age (not to mention an early retirement), you will need to take a different approach than most of your peers. If you want to make your career work for you (or take a different approach to work altogether), then you will need to escape “the money trap.”
What is “enough?”
If you’re currently spending close to your take-home pay in monthly expenses, you may find yourself stuck in the money trap.
The money trap is the belief that more money will bring you happiness. It’s the belief that you need to continue earning (and spending) more without asking yourself, “how much is enough?”
While hosting a series of live seminars, Robin asked participants to report a “Life Rating” that measured how satisfied they were with their current lives. Robin grouped the participants into income brackets and then averaged each group’s rating.
The results showed that more money didn’t correlate with a higher level of happiness. Regardless of whether participants were making $1,500 a month, $3,000 a month, or more… the average score for each group suggested they were dissatisfied and seeking more.
When asked “How much money would it take to make you happy?”, the answer was almost always 50-100% more.
Clearly, the answer wasn’t as simple as increasing one’s income from $1,500 to $3,000 a month… While it may help for a while, those people weren’t satisfied either.
This led Robin to create what she called “the fulfillment curve.” The chart shows the relationship between feeling fulfilled and the amount of money we spend.
The secret is staying at the peak of the curved called enough:
“It’s appreciating and fulling enjoying what money brings into your life and yet never purchasing anything that isn’t needed and wanted.”
Make peace with your financial past
When you discover that aiming for “enough money” is the key to fulfillment, you learn that “your money or your life” is a false dichotomy. You can have both – you may just need to change some of your beliefs and behaviors about money to get there.
In the book, Robin outlines specific steps that will allow you to “go for both.” It starts with making peace with your financial past. The first chapter provides two homework assignments that will help you understand what you’ve earned so far and what you have to show for it.
These two activities will help you define your past relationship with money and put yourself at financial “ground zero.” Understanding where you’re starting from will help you lay the foundation before you take the next steps toward financial independence.
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How much have you earned?
Find out how much money you have earned in your lifetime–the sum total of your first income, from the first penny you ever earned to your most recent paycheck.
Robin encourages readers to be impeccable in their calculations here. Start by collecting all of your past tax returns, then consider any other income that may not have been included. Not to suggest you left money off your tax form, but some possible examples could be:
- Cash tips you didn’t report
- Cash prizes you won
- Cash gifts from relatives
- Gambling winnings (probably won’t miss this if you won the Powerball!)
- And more…
Calculating how much money you have earned during your lifetime provides a few major benefits.
You’ll have a greater appreciation for your ability to earn money (even with just college jobs, you’ve likely earned more than you thought).
You’ll understand just how much money has already passed through your hands and get a better idea of how much more could be in your future.
What have you got to show for it?
Find out your net worth by creating a personal balance sheet of assets and liabilities.
To calculate your net worth, you’ll be creating a balance sheet: a financial statement that shows your net worth at a specific moment in time.
For those of us non-accountants, here’s a basic reminder of what a balance sheet looks like:
Assets (Liquid + Fixed) – Liabilities = Net worth
Here’s a brief (and non-exhaustive) rundown of each category:
- Liquid assets: cash, savings and checking accounts, stocks, bonds, mutual funds
- Fixed assets: the current market value of your house, car(s), any other items with monetary value
- Liabilities: all debts and payments due (mortgage, auto loan, student loan, credit cards)
Add the assets and subtract the liabilities. The remainder is your net worth. Just like the first exercise, impeccability is key in getting an accurate snapshot of your financial situation. You may find this snapshot encouraging or upsetting.
“In creating your balance sheet, many feelings associated with your material universe may arise: sadness, grief, nostalgia, hope, guilt, shame, embarrassment, anger. A dispassionate and compassionate attitude can go a long way toward making this step truly enlightening,” Robin writes.
This is just the first of nine steps found in Your Money or Your Life. That being said, checking in on your net worth (whether by manually creating a balance sheet or using an app like Mint) is a step that all personal finance beginners should keep coming back to.
Your net worth is widely considered to be the most important number in personal finance – it’s even more important than having a high salary or a perfect credit score.
Measuring your net worth is key to escaping the money trap – it helps you monitor your trajectory toward having “enough.”
If you’ve found yourself caught in “the money trap” – believing that more money will bring you happiness – realize that it’s not too late to dispel this myth and take a different path.
Make peace with your financial past by reflecting on how you came to your current situation with money. Calculate how much you’ve already earned and what you have to show for it.
After you understand what values, beliefs, and behaviors led to your financial circumstances, you’ll be better prepared to use your money and energy more effectively in the future. Tracking your net worth will guide you along your journey to have “enough.”
Join The Financial Journeyman as he covers the next chapter: “Money Ain’t What It Used to Be – And Never Was.”
How did you learn your first lessons about money? What does having “enough” mean to you?